Post from Transformation Tom™- Practice Interviewing: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

December 5, 2017 / tomdowd / News

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When teaching how to interview effectively, I emphasize the need to
practice, or mock interviews. Here are the keys to make the most
of the experience:

• Don’t let the word “mock” throw you off—treat it as a real interview
and maximize the experience. Real practice turns into real success.
• Set it up now—it’s best to do it before you need it, but if that time
has passed, still set them up before the next big interview is on the
horizon.
• Make it a regular event, not a one-time shot—cramming becomes
obvious. Mock interviews are practice, thus need to be done more
than once.
• Understand it is a learning experience—be willing to make mistakes.
• Meet with multiple people with different styles. Talk with someone
you do not know well.
• If you are currently employed, use your manager in the process, but
understand that he or she does not count as a mock interview. I’ve
found that when I worked with managers, the questions tended to
be slanted to my strengths or weaknesses, which took away from
the feel of a real interview. Broaden your scope to find the most
effective interview partner.
• Use the exercise as a networking opportunity or a way to get your
foot in a door that might otherwise be closed.
It’s important to understand what mock interviews are not:
• An attempt to kiss up
• An attempt to predict questions
• An attempt to articulate answers you think the interviewer wants to
hear
• A working session or brainstorming session focusing on your
strengths and weaknesses—this should be done far ahead of a mock
interview.

Understanding the power of mock interviews ensures that you are
more comfortable in pressure situations, and keeps you sharp for the day
when you need to make the intended impression.

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

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Post from Transformation Tom™- Be Bold: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

November 21, 2017 / tomdowd / News

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You should work for this company because I’ve heard…” or, “You
shouldn’t work for this company because…” I heard once at my
former employer that a company up the road, constant competition for
new hires, would tell prospective candidates that our company was going
to close down in the next year or two, so it was best to apply now, while
opportunities were still available. I don’t know if there was any truth to
that rumor, but I do know the need to corroborate stories and separate
fact from fiction. The rumor mill can be a scary place on which to base an
important professional decision that could impact you and your family.
As you pursue potential companies, make sure you have multiple sources
of information, including people who currently work there, people who
used to work there, news media, and social media sources to help formulate
your opinions using facts. You may not want to dismiss hearsay so
quickly, but you do want to do your due diligence prior to making any
rash decisions.

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

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Post from Transformation Tom™-Find a Good Editor of Your Work: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

November 7, 2017 / tomdowd / News

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Spell check doesn’t count as editing—just ask any manger [sic] or, on
one of my résumé examples, where I wrote business singular when
I meant it to be plural businesses. There are some techniques to tighten
up the process, which include waiting until the day after writing to
proofread, printing something out, reading it backward, and reading it
aloud. What you must remember is that your mind substitutes missing
and wrong letters and words naturally for you. As much as we may convince
ourselves that we can do it on our own, you should not proofread
your own work.

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

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Post from Transformation Tom™-Think About Consulting and Contracting: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

October 24, 2017 / tomdowd / News

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If you have a significant amount of expertise in a certain field, there are plenty of opportunities to contract and consult. There are pros and cons. The consultant or independent contractor is typically paid better, because companies don’t have the extra expense of health benefit costs and they have a clear ending deadline, paying only for actual work being done. For both parties, it can become a trial for potential full-time work. On the downside, as a contractor, you must always be concerned with the length of your contract, and try to stay ahead of when the next potential contract may come. Additionally, contractors often put in a lot of work in a condensed period of time. However, you get higher pay and have an independent and entrepreneurial approach to getting the work done. At the very least, it can bridge the gap between full-time jobs. It is worth an individual assessment to see if it can work for you.

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

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Post from Transformation Tom™-Don’t Be Shy with Your Résumé: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

October 10, 2017 / tomdowd / News

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Without shoving my résumé and marketing plan down everyone’s
throat, I wasn’t shy about including it in emails and handing it
out as much as possible—when it made sense. In addition to attaching it
to every networking invitation, I made it part of my daily routine to create
an online profile with companies I was interested in, and also uploaded
it to career-assistance websites. These types of opportunities surround
us if we look hard enough. For example, I found a strong information
source with Career Management Associates. CMA is an HR consulting
firm for Northern New England (www.cmacareer.com). Although more
jobs will come from networking connections, there are opportunities locally,
regionally, and nationally where companies and recruiters actively
scan these types of websites. What could it hurt?

Another reason for getting the résumé out there is an objective opinion.
Being unemployed had me staring at my résumé for what seemed
like hours each day. As your résumé is being circulated, people will inevitably
provide unsolicited advice (or solicited if we’re smart enough to
ask). Some of the better pieces of feedback came from these objective
observers. A second set of eyes can also pick up on any typos. If you are
adjusting the résumé along the way—as you should in order to target
positions with your competencies—you may miss a crucial edit. What
always seems like a simple, quick change has a tendency to go unnoticed
until the most inopportune time.

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

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Post from Transformation Tom™- Listen Intently: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

September 26, 2017 / tomdowd / News

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Effective listening skills will get you far in the interviewing process.
Interviewing is a two-way dialog, not just a question and answer
session. The discussion goes both ways. However, many times candidates
feel the need to talk as much about themselves as possible, as quickly as
possible, in order to make sure they fit everything within the interview
timeframe. It’s good to be able to confidently talk about yourself (e.g.,
“It’s Not Bragging if It’s a Fact”), but the overall quantity must be carefully
thought out. Unfortunately, I fell into this trap in one of my interviews.

In doing my homework for a position, I learned that the hiring manager
was concerned that, although I was a leader of many tasks specific
to the role for which I was interviewing, she wanted examples of when
I’d rolled up my sleeves and actually done the job. I was prepared with
multiple examples, and tried to find a way to include them all—and I
mean all. I needed to better listen to the questions, stay succinct, and remain
on task with my answers. I overwhelmed the interviewer and spent
most of the time talking, and in my own view, unfairly dominating the
discussion. The interviewer most likely felt that she’d lost control of the
interview, that I wasn’t engaged, and that I was simply sticking to my
own agenda. Listening skills are critical to ensure that both parties get the
most out of the dialog. Ironically, I went back to my handwritten notes
and noticed insider information that I needed to remember: “(Hiring
manager) likes to talk.”

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

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Post from Transformation Tom™- Be Detailed and Succinct: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

September 12, 2017 / tomdowd / News

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As an interviewer, I once sat back for twenty minutes and waited for
a candidate to finish answering the first question of the interview,
“Tell me a little bit about yourself professionally.” The answer was rambling
and meandered all around with no particular end in sight. I could
have stopped him, but part of the interview was to determine how effectively
an individual could communicate with others. When in an interview,
it’s important to provide an answer that has context to the question,
supported with a strong example, than a quick wrap up and conclusion.
Rambling creates questions in the interviewer’s mind about your overall
communication style, skills, and ability. You obviously don’t want oneword
responses, but you do want to use solid and supporting examples
using an economy of words.

As I teach in From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide,
there can never be too much practice and preparation, whether you are
doing mock interviews or practicing in front of a mirror using any one
of the thousands of “typical” interview questions you can find on the
Internet. It’s not about memorization—it’s about using an economy of
words that hits the interviewer between the eyes with an unforgettable
impact. Pull out a list of ten to twenty questions, write out your answers,
and practice speaking them. The self-assessment on whether you are babbling
or hitting the mark can make a huge difference in being invited
back for more interviews, or even offered the job.

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com. Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Post from Transformation Tom™- Fight Feelings of Isolation: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

August 29, 2017 / tomdowd / News

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As isolated as we may feel in this sea of angst, we have a support
system. The support can come from your immediate family, your
extended family, your old friends, new friends you meet along the way,
your social network, and your business network. It is not possible to do it
alone. As much as you may feel alone in the process, it is critical to lean
on the people around you for support, for a shoulder to cry on, for the
push you need but may not want. Your success is dependent on the people
around you. Statistically, the analysis will tell you that networking is
the main reason for successful job searches. Even for a little bit of sanity
during the process, you can use the people around you to help you think
more clearly or to be the wall to throw something at to see if it sticks. As
much as you may feel alone in the process, you are not—just ask my running
partner, Kevin. Okay, he’s not a person, he’s a dog, but the morning
jogs with him were just as much for clearing my head as they were for
physical wellness.

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books available in softcover, eBook, and audiobook (From Fear to Success only):

Now What? The Ultimate Graduation Gift for Professional Success
Time Management Manifesto: Expert Strategies to Create an Effective Work/Life Balance
Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job…A Reference Guide to Finding Work
The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World
From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide received the Gold Medal at the 2013 Axiom Business Book Awards in Business Reference
The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood

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Post from Transformation Tom™- Introduction: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

October 24, 2014 / tomdowd / News

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After twenty-three years with the same company, I got The Call That Nobody Wants. I had already started Thomas Dowd Professional Development and Coaching, LLC, as a side job in 2011, in which I taught groups and individuals how to effectively transform into who they really wanted to be professionally using tools like interviewing, networking, and résumé writing. I was in somewhat of an ironic situation, my credibility as an expert in professional development suddenly at stake.

The irony started within a few hours after my job was eliminated, with a pre-scheduled speaking engagement for an organization called “Jobs for Maine Grads.” It continued into the next week, when I landed a radio interview on a show where I had tried to discuss my previous two business books several months before. When I told the producer of this satirical twist, he invited me to immediately come onto the program to discuss unemployment in Maine.

How was I going to keep my emotions in check enough to keep a clear head? I’ve been an active member of Toastmasters International since 2008, and have always found that writing speeches and journals keeps me sane. I used the same approach when the potentially disastrous call came, starting with a jobless journal and notes to reflect my feelings, documenting what I had learned, and helping to keep a clear path to the ultimate goal: a job. “My Beautiful Funeral” passage that started the book is a version of a speech that I wrote within minutes of getting that call. This speech and subsequent book are the lessons I learned on this very personal journey. My passage through unemployment lasted fifty-nine days. I tell you this because my path to land it took many turns. It felt like an eternity until the relief set in with the job offer. I’m convinced that the relatively short period of time was due to having a clear plan and a support system that I now want to share. A journey I would never wish on anyone, but am so thankful that I took.

This book takes you on the rollercoaster ride, from buying the ticket to the moment your stomach sinks thanks to those quick drops, to that final race to the end, arms raised in jubilation. What I’ve found with roller-coasters is that many riders get on for the thrill of not only surviving, but the adventure of something that pulls you between fear and excitement. Your own ride is in front of you. Though you may not have chosen this particular ride, your reaction while you’re on it is up to you. You may ask yourself, “How can I even imagine the possibilities of a new job when I’m panicked about paying my mortgage and providing for my family?” We can get there together—you’re not on this journey alone. What if instead your question became, “Can I land an even better job?” The answer is, “Yes.”

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job (Honorable Mention at the 2014 Paris and New York Book Festivals), The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World (Honorable Mention at the 2012 New England Book Festival), From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide (2013 Axiom Business Book Awards Gold Medal Winner and 2013 Paris Book Festival Honorable Mention). Audiobook version of “From Fear to Success” is also available! See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com. Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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Post from Transformation Tom™- My Beautiful Funeral: Chapter from “Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job”

October 10, 2014 / tomdowd / News

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Introductory Chapter to “Displacement Day”

Have you ever imagined your own funeral? Who will do your eulogy? Who will be your pallbearers? Will anyone show up or even care? I attended my own funeral. Let me explain. But before I do, I need to disclose that no one died or was injured in the making of this narrative.

On a typical day when I was happily playing solitaire and checking Facebook at work, I got the call. June 6th—the anniversary of D-Day. Not World War II; I’m talking about Displacement Day—the day my twenty-three-year job was eliminated. Just like that, it was over. Hard work, tenure, and skills weren’t part of the cost-cutting decision.

On my ride to work on that fateful day, a news report announced that 175,000 jobs had been added in the United States, making the unemployment rate 7.6 percent. On my ride home I was on the other side— one of 11.6 million unemployed. To grasp the magnitude, take the entire population of New York City, and then add another 4 million people. The call was like a gunshot to the head. My work identity was gone immediately. I was being put to rest and people were preparing for my funeral. Condolences rolled in, hugs were bestowed, tears flowed.

What will people say when you’re gone? An old manager once asked me if I ran through a wall, would people follow? At the time, I didn’t know the answer. I needed to know the answer. That was a lifeline—a time for action. Fast-forward six years later to D-Day. I don’t recall a more calming day. It was a day of self-reflection…a chance to hover over my dead body and ask if my life and career were a success. The notes flooded in. “Tom, you’ve touched me more than you’ll ever know, personally and professionally.” “Tom, we love you… This IS your next speech.” I ran through a wall, and people followed.

How was I going to tell my three daughters that Dad was sent to the farm, just like my childhood dog? A spending freeze on shoes, clothes, and pizza may be worse than death for teenagers. My middle child’s head tilted down at a mourner’s angle and a small tear rolled down her cheek as if it was about to drop onto my coffin. My youngest daughter held me in a bear hug as if it was the last time ever, while my social-media-conscious sixteen-year-old daughter told me that all responses to relocation questions on Facebook were to be “no”—as if I had a choice. The denial, the anger, then acceptance—the exhaustive feeling of having my family watch my demise. However, my support system refused to let my casket be nailed down as they put in a crowbar made of emails, phone calls, and leads. I was being resuscitated.

How many of you have prepared a will? A will reduces stress and chaos. The run through the wall question six years earlier was my wake up call, but I didn’t realize then how it would prevent my professional passing. My eyes were opened wide as I started to build an extraordinary career-saving and life-changing network. In Keith Ferrazzi’s book Never Eat Alone he notes, “Build it before you need it.” Real relationships built over the years provided me meaning, and are the reason for my success now. I wasn’t six feet under. I was six degrees from Kevin Bacon, or at least six degrees from my big break. I was alive. My support system was my CPR.

My job loss became a celebration of life, not my funeral. It reminded me how deep my love and my appreciation really are for my family, friends, and network. I was not defined by my job. I defined my own life and was going to do my funeral my way. No, I’m not going to belt out Sinatra. I lost work but found me. I used my displacement as reaffirmation that when I leave this earth, I’m leaving with no regrets. Think about your own funeral—when your spirit is hovering over the mourners, will you leave them something to mourn and celebrate?

So, let’s go back to the question: Have you ever imagined your own funeral? Who will do your eulogy, who will be your pallbearers, who will care? My eulogy was shouted out by the many key people in my network who blew my trumpet for me and gave humbling accounts of the person I had been, and who I had become. My pallbearers carried me when I couldn’t go any further. The overwhelming flood of calls and messages showed who cared. I have to admit that I started writing this narrative immediately after I got the call, and I wrote the end too. We all know we’re going to die—I don’t mean that “end.” I mean the speech ending, where I get a job. I wrote it before I had a job secured. It wasn’t overconfidence, it was just a belief that I was surrounded by an ironclad network that refused to stop giving me the oxygen I needed to survive. Are you ready to see your own funeral? I lived to see mine, and it was beautiful.

Thomas B. Dowd III’s books Displacement Day: When My Job was Looking for a Job (Honorable Mention at the 2014 Paris and New York Book Festivals), The Transformation of a Doubting Thomas: Growing from a Cynic to a Professional in the Corporate World (Honorable Mention at the 2012 New England Book Festival), From Fear to Success: A Practical Public-speaking Guide (2013 Axiom Business Book Awards Gold Medal Winner and 2013 Paris Book Festival Honorable Mention). Audiobook version of “From Fear to Success” is also available! See “Products” for details on www.transformationtom.com. Book and eBook purchase options are also available on Amazon- Please click the link to be re-directed: Amazon.com

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